Strange days don’t you think? The faint of heart do not need poison, guns, ropes or even suffocation to commit suicide. Dating makes it ABC-easy for you, a simple but possibly ugly and depressing word. You will perhaps get the true picture of what I’m saying the moment you sit alone on your king-size or mini bed reflecting upon the unsightly moments when you had to put on a show of some sort in order to appear presentable.
If male, you probably initiated talks, dressed, talked and acted in every manner that would portray you business-like or at least ‘focused’ depending on the situation and partner. For women on the other hand, you might have dressed up so elegantly, made your hair in the most trendy way besides faking your age and weight.
Looking back, however, everything seems austere, drawing you to social stigma and the idea that you might have fallen victim to a pathological relationship pattern. While a few people can attest to the bliss associated with dating, a lot more can confirm that it has ruined their future, invalidated their dreams and emptied their lives.
Quick enough if you have to lie
It is acceptable to lie at some point in life because of our human predisposition but the situation is totally different in the dating world. Choosing to date I’d say is the first dishonest move towards the self. Oftentimes, the dilemma as to whether it is right to date or not is one of the most pervasive and complicated decisions that you will have to grapple with. Deciding to date then drags you to your grave faster than cyanide if it has to involve a lie.
I’ve already talked about fudging your virtues to be the ideal person that your prospective partner has forever dreamt of. How many of us will conceal our past relational wreckage for fear of appearing ‘undatable’? That aside, I have met men and women alike trying to figure out their prospective partners’ mannerisms and interests so they could embrace his or her interests to some extent. When the infatuation craze dies down, however, an irreconcilable difference is conceived, one between the persona you depicted initially and the person that you truly are. You can obviously contemplate the outcome…
Dating has presented itself as a mean occurrence which provides a limited and mostly distorted picture of what someone really is. Knowing someone from an honest point of view takes a casual approach with little to no affection and not necessarily the faking that goes into getting a woman’s pants or a man’s masculinity as is routine in dating.
Better enough if you are sex-starved
Coitus has over time emerged as one of the very few sanctified human acts but a few people have manipulated its availability and importance to suit their selfish interests. My point is, dating will take you to the grave faster than a thunder-strike will if you are sexually starved. Every brand on the buffet table will appeal to your appetite if you walk into a restaurant hungry.
Unfortunately, very few of us can resist exposure to the human buffet especially after starvation that possibly sprouts from a break-up, immaturity, lack of opportunity and self-imposed celibacy. How many times have you made regrettable decisions just because you were too desperate to date? If you cannot watch the amount of time and sexual contact that you have with a new date for instance, it is a clear indication that you were starved in some way. Continue settling for the junk partners just because you are famished but when the emotional death finally knocks, they will not find you hanging on a rope but rather spending time in a psychiatric center.
Too harsh if you play by the rules
The rules that come along with the dating game simply suck! Who said you cannot enjoy coitus on the first date? The biggest sex organ is your brain. When the recipe is all set, your meal will be ready for consumption whether it is the first or 10th date. As long as you feel it is right to have sex on the first date, rules are there to be broken. After all, it improves circulation and is a very good exercise that helps you deal with a number of lifestyle illnesses.
Who said that men should forever pay the bills and carry your handbag? Letting him pay all your bills right from the first date is not so far from prostitution in its cognitive origins. The only difference is the number of clients that you are serving this time round. If he feels gentle enough to pay once and twice, don’t be tempted to make it a routine. After all, money and power go hand in hand. He will surely pay but in return buy a sense of control over you. Within no time, you become nothing less than his trusted servant and sex object. Be open wise enough to split the bills or pay in turns.
If you believe that being complete must always involve dating, then something is amiss somewhere. Being single has its benefits. Gone are the days when single guys were regarded as maladjusted, immature and selfish. These are some of the harmful myths that we need to debunk lest we fall victim to the unconscious suicidal ideation. Being single, whether it is a lifetime choice or a temporary state, emerges as a chance to build lasting friendships and devote your time and effort towards activities that you are passionate about. Singlehood gives one an opportunity to build a sense of self-identity and self-worth that is not in any way attached to a romantic partner’s approval and feedback.
Given the value of socialization to human beings, it is rational that we work so hard to secure lasting intimate relationships but when the fear of being single controls our romantic decisions, it unconsciously leads to poor judgment and relationships that are not meant to last. In extreme circumstances, we fall victim to relationships that leave us depressed and vulnerable to abuse.
What then is the link between dating and suicide? Psychosomatic illnesses are strongly linked to stress, which in most circumstances arises from our relationships. A rope may kill you faster but it is time you realized that dating does not kill you when you finally have a date with your coffin. The wrong decisions that we make each day kill us instantly, either economically, emotionally or socially. It is just a matter of time before the cover is blown up and the entire world will realize that you committed suicide the moment you started dating.
If male, you probably initiated talks, dressed, talked and acted in every manner that would portray you business-like or at least ‘focused’ depending on the situation and partner. For women on the other hand, you might have dressed up so elegantly, made your hair in the most trendy way besides faking your age and weight.
Looking back, however, everything seems austere, drawing you to social stigma and the idea that you might have fallen victim to a pathological relationship pattern. While a few people can attest to the bliss associated with dating, a lot more can confirm that it has ruined their future, invalidated their dreams and emptied their lives.
Quick enough if you have to lie
It is acceptable to lie at some point in life because of our human predisposition but the situation is totally different in the dating world. Choosing to date I’d say is the first dishonest move towards the self. Oftentimes, the dilemma as to whether it is right to date or not is one of the most pervasive and complicated decisions that you will have to grapple with. Deciding to date then drags you to your grave faster than cyanide if it has to involve a lie.
I’ve already talked about fudging your virtues to be the ideal person that your prospective partner has forever dreamt of. How many of us will conceal our past relational wreckage for fear of appearing ‘undatable’? That aside, I have met men and women alike trying to figure out their prospective partners’ mannerisms and interests so they could embrace his or her interests to some extent. When the infatuation craze dies down, however, an irreconcilable difference is conceived, one between the persona you depicted initially and the person that you truly are. You can obviously contemplate the outcome…
Dating has presented itself as a mean occurrence which provides a limited and mostly distorted picture of what someone really is. Knowing someone from an honest point of view takes a casual approach with little to no affection and not necessarily the faking that goes into getting a woman’s pants or a man’s masculinity as is routine in dating.
Better enough if you are sex-starved
Coitus has over time emerged as one of the very few sanctified human acts but a few people have manipulated its availability and importance to suit their selfish interests. My point is, dating will take you to the grave faster than a thunder-strike will if you are sexually starved. Every brand on the buffet table will appeal to your appetite if you walk into a restaurant hungry.
Unfortunately, very few of us can resist exposure to the human buffet especially after starvation that possibly sprouts from a break-up, immaturity, lack of opportunity and self-imposed celibacy. How many times have you made regrettable decisions just because you were too desperate to date? If you cannot watch the amount of time and sexual contact that you have with a new date for instance, it is a clear indication that you were starved in some way. Continue settling for the junk partners just because you are famished but when the emotional death finally knocks, they will not find you hanging on a rope but rather spending time in a psychiatric center.
Too harsh if you play by the rules
The rules that come along with the dating game simply suck! Who said you cannot enjoy coitus on the first date? The biggest sex organ is your brain. When the recipe is all set, your meal will be ready for consumption whether it is the first or 10th date. As long as you feel it is right to have sex on the first date, rules are there to be broken. After all, it improves circulation and is a very good exercise that helps you deal with a number of lifestyle illnesses.
Who said that men should forever pay the bills and carry your handbag? Letting him pay all your bills right from the first date is not so far from prostitution in its cognitive origins. The only difference is the number of clients that you are serving this time round. If he feels gentle enough to pay once and twice, don’t be tempted to make it a routine. After all, money and power go hand in hand. He will surely pay but in return buy a sense of control over you. Within no time, you become nothing less than his trusted servant and sex object. Be open wise enough to split the bills or pay in turns.
If you believe that being complete must always involve dating, then something is amiss somewhere. Being single has its benefits. Gone are the days when single guys were regarded as maladjusted, immature and selfish. These are some of the harmful myths that we need to debunk lest we fall victim to the unconscious suicidal ideation. Being single, whether it is a lifetime choice or a temporary state, emerges as a chance to build lasting friendships and devote your time and effort towards activities that you are passionate about. Singlehood gives one an opportunity to build a sense of self-identity and self-worth that is not in any way attached to a romantic partner’s approval and feedback.
Given the value of socialization to human beings, it is rational that we work so hard to secure lasting intimate relationships but when the fear of being single controls our romantic decisions, it unconsciously leads to poor judgment and relationships that are not meant to last. In extreme circumstances, we fall victim to relationships that leave us depressed and vulnerable to abuse.
What then is the link between dating and suicide? Psychosomatic illnesses are strongly linked to stress, which in most circumstances arises from our relationships. A rope may kill you faster but it is time you realized that dating does not kill you when you finally have a date with your coffin. The wrong decisions that we make each day kill us instantly, either economically, emotionally or socially. It is just a matter of time before the cover is blown up and the entire world will realize that you committed suicide the moment you started dating.
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