Vague
and idealized as my writings may seem (at least to the group expressing open
dissent); they have
at present been invested with the greatest significance, now that two psychos
from Nyeri have already confirmed my assertions. My argument is that the
dichotomy between marriage and happiness, which is substantially taken for
granted in the most recent interpretations of gender-based violence, does not
reflect the realities in Nyeri and Kenya at large.
The danger of emphasizing this
supposed marital bliss is that it creates the illusion that marriage is necessary
while it isn’t. The current assertion that
a woman makes a man complete is thus eminently misleading and derives more from
wishful thinking or ideological bias than from a careful analysis of the moral
degradation that is eating into the modern woman.
Men are human and therefore prone
to inadequacies, which our women are fully aware of even before the diamond
ring slips down their finger. Talking of diamond rings, I must mention it once
and for all that you have driven young men far from the youthful ambitions of
amassing wealth and power, by expecting a piece of jewellery that is supposedly
a sign of love. Diamonds may not be as rare as some people want you to believe.
Instead, their supply has been deliberately manipulated to suit specific
pockets that are as well in a mission to please a woman.
It goes beyond sanity for a lady
to make human meat chops from the very sexual tool that could not be provided
in their paternal household. Domestic and sexual violence has been framed
principally with respect to violence against women, where just like in rape
instances, men are meant to be perpetrators and women the victims. While sexual
violence against women has become a prominent issue in humanitarian,
educational, political and legal spheres, sexualised violence against men
remains surrounded by a wall of silence.
It is useful to remind ourselves
that feminist heroes and theorists have provided wide-ranging, and at times
contradictory, definitions of the concept of gender-based violence. Originally a
philosophical notion, the idea of gender-based violence was subsequently used
and abused in a patriarchal society to protect the woman, who had supposedly
grown weak and insignificant, both socially and economically.
For this reason, there is no
accepted genealogy of the concept of sexual violence which would provide an
analytically useful framework for the study of the institution called family. As is the case with notions which
become widely practised and analytically fashionable, it is difficult to know
whether we’ll really change this idea of women being victims forever.
Truth be told, Nyeri has been a
hotspot because of the hearsay that hits the mainstream media. In real sense,
there are random acts of violence against men which go untold in various parts
of the republic, basically because the modern woman cannot hide the beast that
generation-Y ladies are raised to be.
Typical of the discourse
surrounding domestic violence is the use of the phrase in a manner to suggest violence
against women only. There is an alarming number of men and boys enduring
physical and psychological violence in the hands of the very women that were
meant to be caregivers. What a dramatic turn of events! Perhaps if science
finds a way of ‘be-wombing’ men (if such a term will ever exist), then we’ll
write a different story.
Notwithstanding the notion that
women have been traditionally vulnerable to violence, sidelining the male
victims only serves to hide the situation on the ground. Things have changed
with the modern woman rebuffing the skirt and instead going for tight jeans,
heeled shoes and sharp pins beneath the nostrils. Virtually everything that
generation-Y ladies wear in the fashion disguise is a weapon meant to tear men
either directly or indirectly.
While a better part of the
African society is patriarchal, it appears shameful and desperately humiliating
for a man to admit that he has been preyed upon by the wife unless in extreme
circumstances as is the tradition in Nyeri.
There is a growing number of men
silently battered by their wives, denied sex and food, locked out of the very houses
that they built and oftentimes abused verbally. This is only a time bomb hazard
which shall explode when the right time comes for men to express the aggressive
personality that they are raised with.
The affected men are particularly
unhappy and isolated because they prefer to talk less. These are the very men
that have resorted to spend more time in the pub than at home, triggering the same
cocks at home to crow, arguing that they have been denied sex and that men have
expressed a worryingly deteriorating trend with regard to their reproductive
capabilities.. How would you expect a man to erect to a woman who has no trace
of respect?
Before you think of taking rehab centres
to Nyeri, address the underlying issue of difficult women. This race is running
open criticism, belittling the husband and manipulation feelings and emotions
in such a way as to induce guilt. The husband’s relationship with children has
been overly subverted because of the woman’s manipulation, painting male
victims as perpetrators in instances where their innocence ought to go
unquestioned.
Worrying even more is the manner
in which security agencies are treating issues of violence against men. Today,
like yesterday, our perception is that men will never be abused by women. Are these
manifestations of the strength of the belief in the irrational merely an
indication of the failure of men to realize that we have no rights? Masculinity
is no longer a defence, especially now that women don’t even realize their true
gender identity. They exhibit both feminine and masculine characteristics, consuming
more food than men and still retaining the verbal powerhouses that have always
given them a competitive advantage over men.
In most instances, only the
wealthy men are immune to abuse because their economic means is more
substantial and less prone to the vagaries of irrational women. Irrespective of
this, however, the difference between the three economic classes of men is more
symbolic than real, since the overlap of the marital world and that of wealth
is one of the most salient features of contemporary marriages. No matter how
much respect these economically-endowed men command from their women, it is a
question of what they have and not necessarily respect for their manhood and
status as heads of families.
Nyeri is just a sneak-view of the
Satanism that is surrounding marriage on planet earth. It is just a matter of
time before men declare the fairer sex evil and untameable just like I have. But
to the extent of chopping the very manhood to which you opened your legs every
night, THIS IS EXTREME. ALAS! A man is his penis you dickheads!
Sound advice to men, you better
zip-up and open to the call of nature alone. None has ever died of sexual
starvation (or I’ll remain the only disciplined here, one not vulnerable to
womanhood). A mention of the call of nature has reminded me of the poetic pieces
that I used to pen before I opted to change course. Laugh your butts off with this piece on cloak room tales.
