LADIES: THE MODERN-DAY VIRUS

Deception is a routine motif that blots the life of every modern woman. Inasmuch as their illusory acts seem outrightly defensible, a greater proportion of the weaker sex portrays a character far from human, whose ambivalent effect renders perverse; the fact that there could be some sensible feminine existences out there.

Hold your lousy tongues!  Never ask me to act contrite since that’s synonymous to forcing a stream to flow in a reverse direction. I can justify.

Let’s begin with the fashion disguise. Where on God’s good earth was the cleavage cliché first conceived?  Well, cheers for entertaining the male eye with your superficially garbed teats, undermining God’s purpose for setting them where they are.  Assuming you adopted the character held by most mammals created with openly-aired mammary glands; and pretending that such revelation does no harm to the present-day generation (which ain’t even a distant cousin to the truth); exposure is meant for just a few.

Flaccid breasts, darker than hair, ever shy, unfairly beaten by stretch marks, graced with a thumb-sized nipple, pimpled with a texture that points out to facial acne and above all, exposing a creation whose characteristic loyalty contrasts not so much with an old pair of sand-filled socks; clearly gives men a night full of petrifying hallucinations besides denying them appetite.

The flippantly-tailored wears and blouses plus flashy brassieres were preordained for the hallowed few who can boast of voluminous breasts. There are only a handful of women who can break a neck with their carelessly exposed chests. This describes the rare breed that is almost turning University Way into a black spot, far from the vending machine attendant in clumsy River Road mini-streets dancing to bendover in maladroit corners to entice male ice-cream buyers (whom I barely recognize as men especially now that the trouser has grown into something unisex).

I wonder what language your dressing mirror speaks (but this does not mean that I have overlooked the miniature mirror at the back of a twenty-shillings comb that I’m used to). Review your nefarious behavior pattern by working on the awful image that stares right into your eyes from the dressing mirror before someone near-male can call you a lady.

And for the rare breed, heed to this brotherly counsel. Your scanty upper-body dress only portrays you as an underprivileged deceiver struggling for dominance and attention in a world where men have grander goals to chase. Rather than calling men dogs and nonsensically sermonizing the irrational credence that all men are the same, sit back and rethink this single yet mild form of deception that has ruined the lives of countless men. The masculine world is totally visual, whether in human or any class that belongs to the kingdom animalia.

I feel lethargic. This is sufficient to handle the few haters that I have presumably created. But wait; before you detach the mandibles, review your blouse’s top-line. If it decently covers what it ought to, then be free to bring your uninformed attacks head-on. I have greater specifics to discredit the present-day feminine unit.

REASONS WHY GOOD RELATIONSHIPS END

Love is difficult to define, impossible to measure and ultimately difficult to understand. It however remains a basic force that steers the world, and one of the ingredients of happiness in life. The subject is romantic love, which at some point comes to an end when couples call it quit. It is not something enjoyable but the lasting consequences that it will leave compels us to talk of it openly,in an effort to save a sinking boat. Some of the reasons why relations end include:

Premature commitment

Most a times we commit ourselves to partners whom we know little about, and the personal disclosures that come later in life take us into two different worlds that will never meet whatsoever. The initial emotional attachment can be deceptive, because intimacy ought to be backed up with commitment in order for relationships to last. Couples who go into commitment without knowing each other deeply are at a greater risk of breaking up. It is factual that passion ends in the course of any relationship, which means unless there is a firmly grounded commitment, the union crumbles in dubious circumstances.

Poor communication and conflict resolution strategies

Communication has been cited by most researchers as the main reason why relationships end. It binds people together, and makes it possible to share and resolve conflicts. No matter how difficult a situation is, it can be solved through effective communication. Even infidelity has been brought to an end through reasonable and emotion-free communication. Suppress your anger, clear off that determination to terminate the relationship and walk to the negotiation table with a clear mind. Communication also means opening up, and talking about matters just as they are. If it is a sexual matter where one partner is underperfoming or demanding too much, be open and talk about the sexual part. Sex is not a derogative topic. It is God given, therefore clear your mind but in a manner that will not make the partner feel intimidated. Say how, when and where you want it. Surprisingly, most problems arise in the bedroom and ultimately turn it into a sitting room when it no more offers comfort.

Infidelity, cheating or deception

Cheating is one of the biggest deal-breakers. Commitment to love means staying truthful. Some people merely find infidelity pleasurable, by trying a variety of partners. However, there is no novelty in having sex with multiple partners. Straight to the point, sex will always be sex, even if it involves a god and a goddess. Male orgasm will always be ejaculation, which is achievable with any woman, while female orgasm remains that 'unexplainable feeling' which too can be attained with any man as longer as there is commitment to give and take. What then are people looking for in cheating? Size of the penis and sexual orientation should not be the scapegoat. If you want special styles of service and delivery, teach one another. Behaviour is always learnt. However, to the point that a partner decides to cheat, something must have been wrong, and the relationship already on its downhill path.

Going physical too fast

Forming a stable emotional circuit that will sustain a relationship takes time and effort. The willingness to commit and trust are built over time and cannot be rushed. Surging out all the sexual energy within the first few hours or days of a relationship often shorts out a potential relationship. Proceed at a reasonable pace. Sexual behaviour is driven by curiosity, and once this is settled, relationships may go stormy. Sex does not necessarily cement a union, but if it is consented and deeply discussed by the two parties, it works well.

Availability of a more attractive relationship

Some of the deteriorating relationships stand the test of time, until a more appealing relationship looms. This is due to the emergence of a partner who is ready to do the things that you are not ready to do to your partner. Changes in a relationship can either build or break it. If you seemed so romantic and dressed in a sexually harassing manner from the onset, maintain it so that you continue to give the same emotional attraction that brought the two of you together. If you change the sweet names suddenly, become aggressive and start wearing mine-field-branded clothing to bed, someone salivating out there will take advantage of the laxity, and this brings to an end even the most stable relationships.

Love is a give and take incidence, therefore if it happens that one partner has this feeling of an exaggerated sense of self importance, it becomes a potential threat to quitting. No one is superior in a relationship, no one should be begged, and no one should benefit more than the other. Sex is a give and take affair, which means no partner is giving or receiving too much. When it grows too hot, with very little stamina left to hold on, and with all communication efforts having failed, couples opt to go separate ways. It becomes a healthier option, or else sanity will be lost.